It’s very natural for a human being like you to feel like you’re “never enough”. We often focus on the bad things that happen to our lives and don’t seem to see the good things that are already in front of us. Don’t worry – you’re not alone. In fact, there are thousands of people who’s feeling the same at this moment.
Here are some ways that you can use to help you look on the brighter side and be more positive by Margot Radicati di Brozolo of www.psychologies.co.uk:
Let your negative thoughts float away
This requires a little imagination but, it really works! When a negative thought comes up, picture placing it on a little boat and letting it float away on the water. This trains your mind to let negative thoughts go rather than trying to stop them – which only makes matters worse.
Celebrate your wins
It’s easy to put pressure on yourself to always perform better while ignoring what we do well (‘Yeah, but that doesn’t count – it was easy’). Try to be more mindful of your successes and take a moment to celebrate them. It can be anything: getting a promotion or some positive feedback, helping a friend feel better – whatever. Celebrating small wins helps to realise that you have successes in your everyday life and trains you to be more mindful of them.
Fire up your imagination
Think of a time when you were ‘good enough’ – when you did something well. Make sure that you visualise the exact moment: what were the surroundings like?
What made you feel good in that specific moment? How did you feel? Where in your body do you feel it: in your chest, your head, you arms? What thoughts accompany this feeling?
Think of a word to describe yourself in that moment (it can be anything: ‘I’m awesome’, ‘I rock’.. whatever!) Remind yourself of that moment and repeat the words over to yourself a few times.
Do this 5 times in a row a few times a day – really make sure that you feel it in your body, it really helps to remind your mind of that feeling!
Sit comfortably with your feet firmly planted on the floor. Push your feet against the floor as hard as possible and notice the physical feeling of this. Touch something – a pet, a set of keys, a phone, whatever! – and notice the feeling of the object against your fingertips. This really helps to distract you from your negative thoughts and focus on the present – try to do this as often as possible.
Now, it’s clear to me! We should focus on the positive and bright side of our lives. No to the negative vibes. Now, I can see things that I could never see before with the help of my brand new good looking Firmoo Optical glasses! *Exclusive good news in partnership with Firmoo: You can get these glasses or any glasses for $4.95 a pair at http://bit.ly/Firmoo_eyeglasses (frame+ standard lens, limited quota)
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